4 Words of Affirmation
12 Quality Time
2 Receiving Gifts
4 Acts of Service
8 Physical Touch
In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
I thought that physical touch would come out the highest for me, because that is definitely something that I would consider to be a top love language, but according to the assessment it is quality time. Now that I think about it, that makes sense. I really don’t like it when I am talking to someone and they are doing something else at the same time. Are they really listening to me? I also get distracted when I am trying to listen to someone and I do other things at the same time. I would prefer to sit at the table to eat so that I can talk with the person instead of in front of the tv or wherever else. I guess I would have to say that I like the persons undivided attention or I feel like they are not listening or they don’t care what I am talking about.
What happens when I feel this way? I stop talking. I don’t share. I pull away. Why would I continue to talk about something that I feel the person clearly does not appreciate or is interested in. I realize some people are great multi-taskers, and that is great. I just feel more loved when I have undivided attention of the person who is close to me. Is that not so hard to ask? I don’t think so.
It’s interesting that the others are so low. I like to show others love by giving them little things or by doing things for them, but they are not high on my list. I guess I prefer quality time and physical touch. I already thought this about myself, but it was nice to do the assessment to confirm my thinking.
P.S. Just because receiving gifts is only a 2 doesn’t mean I don’t like getting gifts! 🙂