4    Words of Affirmation
12   Quality Time
2    Receiving Gifts
4    Acts of Service
8    Physical Touch 

Quality Time
In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention.  Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes you feel truly special and loved.  Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

I thought that physical touch would come out the highest for me, because that is definitely something that I would consider to be a top love language, but according to the assessment it is quality time.  Now that I think about it, that makes sense.  I really don’t like it when I am talking to someone and they are doing something else at the same time.  Are they really listening to me?  I also get distracted when I am trying to listen to someone and I do other things at the same time.  I would prefer to sit at the table to eat so that I can talk with the person instead of in front of the tv or wherever else.  I guess I would have to say that I like the persons undivided attention or I feel like they are not listening or they don’t care what I am talking about.

What happens when I feel this way?  I stop talking.  I don’t share.  I pull away.  Why would I continue to talk about something that I feel the person clearly does not appreciate or is interested in.   I realize some people are great multi-taskers, and that is great.  I just feel more loved when I have undivided attention of the person who is close to me.  Is that not so hard to ask?  I don’t think so.

It’s interesting that the others are so low.  I like to show others love by giving them little things or by doing things for them, but they are not high on my list.  I guess I prefer quality time and physical touch.  I already thought this about myself, but it was nice to do the assessment to confirm my thinking.  

What’s your love language?  Visit www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/  to find out.  I would be curious to know.  

P.S.  Just because receiving gifts is only a 2 doesn’t mean I don’t like getting gifts! 🙂