I grew up in a home where we celebrated Valentine’s Day as a family. My parents always had a card and chocolate treat for us. We woke up in the morning and went to the kitchen table to find something at the spot where we always sat at meals together. My parents always made sure that we knew they loved us, but they took extra effort on Valentine’s Day. Maybe that is why I have a different view of the day. Maybe you grew up that way too, but still feel like it is geared towards couples. Maybe you had a horrible experience with Valentine’s Day when you were younger.
You didn’t get a lot of V-Day cards from your classmates or were crushed by a girl or boy that was in your class. Get over it!
Society has pushed on us that this day is for people in love… for couples. If you are single the day is not for you! Wow! That is such a lie. Companies want to make money, so they push it and in the long run people get hurt. I’m tired of it all. I still love Valentine’s Day and think it should still be there, whether you celebrate it with a significant other or you share it with friends and family. You have 365 days of the year to show someone else how much you care about them and how special they are and how much you love them, but for those who need a little extra help to do this there is Valentine’s Day.
You don’t have to be in a relationship to celebrate V-Day. A friend posted a status update on FB the other day about the reminder of her singleness with V-Day coming up. I challenged her to not think of it in this way, but to consider ways she can show love to her friends and family – to those around her. There are far worse things in the world then being single, so why not make the best out of the day and make someone else feel special instead of feeling sorry for yourself that you don’t have a significant other in your life. I’m sure there is at least one person that you care for an love – like your Mom or Dad or a sibling or a friend or your cat or dog or snake.
I can say all of this because I haven’t always had a special someone in my life. I can say this because I have made the most of the day whether I have been single or not. I can say this because even if I am in a relationship I try to make others around me feel loved and special. Everyone has someone “special” in their life so why not make them feel special. In the end you will feel great. Who knows, it might change your thoughts about the day.
I challenge each of you to do at least one special something for someone else in your life on Valentine’s Day. Especially you singles who complain about the day – Yes, I am picking on you. Don’t worry, I won’t forget the guys who think the day is a waste when you can show love every other day – do something for your lady, because really how many times have you done something special for her?
Whether you are single or not, what are you going to do this Valentine’s Day to show someone you care? You know what to do… leave me a comment… I’d love to hear from you!
*Note* I know this isn’t a regular Friday Post and should be on a Tuesday, but I thought it should be out before Tuesday – which is Valentine’s Day. Now you have the weekend to think about what you are going to do instead of rushing on the day to get something done. Plan ahead, it’s a better way.
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Amy Waite said:
Great one Erin! Hope you have a great Valentine's Day!!
Erin, I really like your post! I have to say, for myself, becoming a Mom has given me a new perspective on Valentine's Day. I love doing things for my daughter and with my daughter, and use this special day to show her how much I love her.
This year, we are going to make home-made valentines for her grandparents (my parents) Shhhhh! Don't tell them! It's a surprise! 😉 But I love doing home made things and crafts and such for Valentine's Day, to me its always more special and meaningful to give something that you made yourself 🙂
Erin Jackman said:
Hey Amy, it was a great Valentine's day. I hope you had a great one too. Thanks for leaving a comment.
How did the valentine making go, Paula? I hope it was a wonderful day with your daughter!